by Randal Sumner
Last week I found myself in line at the Bi-Mart, holding my
basket of cat food and waiting my turn at the register. Another customer got in
line behind me and struck up a conversation, its kind of a Bi-Mart thing.
comment or two he asked me “What do you do”?
I told him
I was retired, I always say I’m retired. It usually kills any further chatting.
I’m here to get cat food not to be grilled by a member of the Greatest
Then my new little grey haired pal asked, “How
old are you, fifty”?
‘’No I will
be sixty two this year,” turning my back and attention to the transaction at
hand with the cashier.
says, “You’ve had and easy life”.
This where I can usually be counted on making
a rude, inappropriate comment. However, when I looked the munchkin in the eyes,
I simply said, “I think your right I have had an easy life”.
He had me pegged.
He probably does this
kind of thing a lot.
My life’s been exactly like a Subaru commercial.
my wife and I celebrate our fortieth wedding anniversary. Coincidentally it’s
been forty years since I began fly-fishing. Ha, and you thought there was no
way to bring fishing into this column. Marriage and fishing: two enterprises
that require many of the same skills to master.
I have very little of this when it
comes to real life. Other drivers… waiting at the bank window… airline travel…hey,
just dealing with other humans in general can set me off. Fortunately,
fly-fishing is not real life, and after 40 years of it I’ve gotten over the
catching part, I am just glad to be out there.
Liz, on the other hand is a monument to patience. She could build a toothpick
Taj Mahal over a period of years, one tiny tooth pick at a time. She is also
very patient with everyone but me, I mean she knows that the TSA is always
going to pull me aside and put me in the cool off box for a few minutes; it’s
something to count on; there’s something about me. They just know
The ability to be at the right place at the
right time, with the right stuff at home or the river is the key to having a
great marriage and excellent fly fishing. It’s much better to practice humility
and refrain from commenting about those touchy subjects at home and the river. If
your wife or fishing companions want you to know something they will on tell
you in there own time; nothing is served by speeding up the timing.
My problem is, rarely does anyone tell me
anything about there inner thoughts. It’s almost as if they think I don’t care.
Hey, I’m a marshmallow! Here’s a tip, don’t forget Valentines Day.
Staying the course when life may not be
traveling a smooth road, especially when the road looks grim.
always casting huge dry flies to hungry fat trout; in fact the fly fishing life
is hardly a cut from “A River Runs through It”.
Marriage on the other hand is always a slow motion dream sequence; each
passing year just gets better and better.
experience anyway and I’m sticking with it. The most important decision you
will make in this life will be your choice of a spouse. No pressure. Just like
a Subaru commercial.